NewsReel 16/9/14 - Nigerian Parents Raise Their Kids Wrong, Wrong, Wrong

[ Masterweb Reports: Dr. James C. Agazie reports ] - DO you remember how our parents raised us in the villages? It was a very hard child training. We were subjected to residing at mission or government secondary schools and colleges for seven long years. We trekked many miles to farms to plant yams, harvest corn, and raise chicken when school was out. Plus we received a few floggings delivered to bare buttocks when the temptation to ignore chores or skip homework to dribble soccer balls with friends, proved irresistible.  Many of us didn’t like the harsh treatment we received one bit. Some of us were resentful, and some thought our parents either didn’t love us or were just mean rattlesnakes. When now we look back at our hard beginnings, aren’t we thankful? Don’t we consider ourselves blessed? I tell you this: If you think the way my parents raised me was child abuse, I like it because the benefits are stupendous. When we look back nowadays at the way our parents in America and Nigeria are raising and losing their rotten children, we really cry because:
1.      Many Nigerian women (Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, Idoma,  Calabar, and many other tribes) come to America to become akwunakwuna, ashawo, or prostitutes by getting pregnant in order to  receive Section 8 housing and Food Stamps programs.
2.      Nigerian parents in Diaspora try to buy their kids’ love with money; they spoil kids with too much love, and more stupid love than with anything that smells like commonsense. 
3.      Nigerian parents in the U S, and U K buy children unneeded gadgets like expensive iphones in elementary schools; Mercedes Benz in high schools.
4.      Nigerian parents give their children no house chores to do while allowing long unsupervised ipu olili (visits) all night in the neighborhood with sleep-over at friends’ homes; drunken parties at family home with friends when parents are out.
5.      Nigerian parents allow wayward sons and daughters to move into family homes with useless boy/girlfriends to smoke weeds and make babies in order to get welfare benefits.
6.      Nigerian parents do not demand that children hold part-time jobs at age 16 in order to teach responsibility and help them contribute to payment of utility bills.
7.      Nigerian parents buy boys pants-on-the-butt so they walk gang-style and girls revealing dresses so girls can attract wealthy suitors while parents appear as sophisticated, liberal immigrants.
8.      Nigerian parents do not encourage children to choose in-demand college majors (such as chemistry, engineering, physical science, for examples) rather than easy psychology, music, political science and subjects with extremely dim employment opportunities. Many Nigerian parents are frustrated, aggravated and deeply disturbed. They live in fear of their children, always trying to buddy up with and please kids. Only a handful of parents are willing to discuss some of the difficulties they are experiencing in raising their sons and daughters with counselors. Some Nigerian parents are in denial, pretending all is well, very squeaky clean. The rest hide their difficulties even from God until the children begin going to  prisons, running away from home, skipping classes, or hanging out with community juvenile delinquents.  Why are we surprised when stories crop up about Diaspora children killing their parents, committing suicide and other types of crimes, including rapes, drug dealing, and even prostitution? The Bible’s injunction to “raise the child the way he should go so that when he/she grows up he/shall not depart thereof”, is still applicable in today’s world.
9.      Nigerian parents everywhere spend inordinately long hours plotting how to chase after the Almighty Dollar.
10. Nigerian parents get home late from work tired only to drink alcohol, go to parties and then to bed without checking into children’ s homework and without  administering discipline when rules are broken.
11. Parents in Nigeria spend countless hours with daughters plotting on how to trap rich Diaspora men even when there is no love in the relationship.
12. Nigerian parents in US and UK don’t want to be perceived as primitive or coming from the jungle. Therefore, they outlaw discipline and raise spoiled, vagabond children.
Dr. James C. Agazie ( Email: ) reports
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