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Nigeria: It’s A Matter Of Upbringing.


Nigeria: It’s A Matter Of Upbringing.

*Nigeria: It’s A Matter Of Upbringing.

By Ikechukwu Enyiagu

“Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”- Proverbs 22:6. This passage in the Holy Book, the Bible, is arguably the most recommendable for children’s upbringing – both for Christian and non-Christian parents. It therefore places on the parents the ultimate right and responsibility for raising better children, therefore, making up a healthier society. This advice also ties most, if not all, of the culpability of a child’s undesirable character and choice of direction to its parent(s). While it’s highly commendable for parents to teach their children (wards) the times of life they live in, it’s equally pertinent that these parents train them in the way they should go. Those compelled under One-Nigerian society, more than having been infested with all manner of abominations, still have the opportunity for a better tomorrow; this opportunity is seen by the free gift of God in our children. This is why St. Paul rightly said, ““All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.”- 1 Corinthians 10:23 (ESV) Parents need to teach their children properly and bring them up to meet up with the vast challenges of today’s world; however, the word of wisdom from God should take the center stage in every child’s upbringing. ( Continues below..... )

Map of Nigeria

Photo Above: Map of Nigeria showing some major cities, including Enugu and Federal capital (Abuja or FCT)

It’s a matter of upbringing. Talk to a prostitute today, and if she breaks down enough to open up, you are sure to hear of the failure of her parents in her upbringing. Leave this group and move on to the robbers and kidnappers we have everywhere in Nigeria today, if they are drunk enough to open up, you will be shocked to hear that they were ignored by their fathers or parents. Leave these groups of “brought-up” children and go to the militants; you surely will not mistake the culpability of their parents’ silence cushioned by whoever they have resolved to lay the blame on. It should be noted, also, that the highly callous leaders we have in the society today were once children, and at the bottom of their wickedness lays the fault of wrong parenting. Man, in many ways, is like a field for crops - take “proper” care of it and you are sure to stand as the proud owner of “that filed; but, let it grow as it pleases, and you will not mistake the imprint of your neglects on it. Even if you move forward a bit to look at our children in different unlawful and disgraceful activities today, you will not mistake the role of the parents and how they have goaded them on in the wrong paths. And you can be sure today that those in Nigeria bombing and killing innocent people all over the country in the name of religion had some roots of their convictions traced down to their parents.

It’s a matter of upbringing. As a country, Nigeria, though forced on all, has played the role of the first parent to all presently tied to its name. This therefore implies that, with all the responsibilities allocated to parents at their children’s birth, the country’s root has a greater role to play in the upbringing of its children (citizens). Therefore, rightly, a country may be referred to as “the mother of all her citizens;” that tells, in a long way, why a country may be referred to with a feminine gender; she plays the role of a mother to her children. But looking around today and having seen the failures of parenthood in many families in Nigeria, one should not also forget that the burden of parenthood was made heavier and near impossible by the society which the amalgamation of Nigeria compelled on all. In Nigeria, children are raised to follow their fancy- not their dreams. Many who wanted to be medical doctors ended up as petrochemical engineers, some who wanted to become musicians saw themselves as politicians, while some Nigerian musicians today still have holes in their hearts or have not met their innermost desires. Others started out as Imams and holy preachers but ended up with bombs and explosives around their waists. This is the story of failed parenting. The foundation of Nigeria was built under British insatiable desire for wealth, compulsion and extortion. This very spirit which drove them into Nigeria and necessitated their compulsion of ever-diverging nations under one name for their selfish end is the very spirit which has ruled Nigeria since independence. As a result, this very spirit of selfishness, depravity and darkness has now become the very spirit which runs and drives the lives of our children. ( Continues below..... )

 Police officer collecting N20.00 note at a roadblock

Photo Above: Police officer collecting N20.00 note at a roadblock

Today, children rival themselves in acts of immorality and crime – doing this in a competitive way because that is what “Mother Nigeria” has not only taught, but compelled on all to do. A little girl who has not been properly schooled on matters of the heart, and on the feelings and implications of likeness and love, is been hailed for growing from the wrong environment. While the country has been taken over by crimes, corruption and terrorism, the children are fast growing to contribute their quota for a diseased society filled with conscientious participators and nonchalant observers. As a result, while the young girls are praised for practicing home prostitution from their elementary age, the young boys dream of having “sugar daddies’.” It’s a matter of upbringing; it’s a matter of the foundation. Nigeria is founded on a faulty ground and should never be expected to produce anything good. While it’s not only manly but decent and right for every man to “beat and enslave his body” to his wills, the children (especially females) of yesterdays who have grown into girls and women of today in Nigeria ought to know that every wrong upbringing has its high price. Every act of indecency, both in dressing and character, has its corresponding repercussions. It surely will not be right in itself, but the consequences will certainly be commensurate with their looseness and faulty upbringing. And for the boys, such lifestyle will become a life-burden. ( Continues below…… )

British Gay Priest Rev. Colin Coward with Nigerian Gay Fiancé Bobby Egbele.

Photo Above: British Gay Priest Rev. Colin Coward with Nigerian Gay Fiancé Bobby Egbele (Photo 1)

Finally, while each of us came from parents, and while Nigeria has been forced on us for this long as a parent, it behooves us to always remember that the father of all is the God of the universe; He is called the God of justice and recompense. It’s not far-to-seek why Nigeria has been a terrible parent: those whom she claims motherhood over were never her biological children. Every true mother protects her own, but most foster parents cannot truthfully claim to have a thorough mother-child connections with their ward; it’s mostly either that they are plagued by their desires and wish that the child is miraculously, biologically theirs, or they are filled with furry that the child they actually thought was going to replace the one they never had has now grown up to be a full, rounded and beautiful woman, or a handsome, strong young man. Sometimes, especially when mismanaged, foster-parenting can create worse mental diseases for the child that living with the realization of being orphaned could be far better for such a child in the way he/she relates with whoever is fostering. These reasons are why Nigerian parents must come together and revisit the effects of Nigeria on mothering Nigerians. These effects are not hidden in any sense, however, the wrong parenting in question has, somehow, succeeded in hiding the need to ask Nigeria, “Are you truly my mother?” Even when the lying spirit which has held people against their wish in Nigeria will continue to claim parenthood, this question will nevertheless unmask the veil of lies, treachery and deceits which consequences have eaten deep into the very marrow of those still referred to as Nigerians. And, finally, this discovery will reveal the life-threatening danger of living under a continued One-Nigeria. For a healthy society in this part of the African continent, Nigeria must break up into sovereign states. Delaying this will amount to a worst and unthinkable society – worse than what we abhor in the lives of the Americans and the Europeans. As Rev. Chris Oyakhilome may have described the inevitable consequence of such a society: “it may come to a time when a child could be demanding payments from his father to bear his name;” I pray, for the sake of the few good ones, that it does not have to get that far before Nigerians wake up and pull down this abomination called One-Nigeria. For a better and healthier society, Nigeria will have to break down and up since the children she has fostered have grown up to be carnivores. And it surely will. For the desired adults and society of tomorrow, every so-called Nigerian must be allowed to return to his/her true parents for proper upbringing. Whichever way you look at Nigeria’s failure, you won’t mistake that it’s all a matter of upbringing.

Ikechukwu Enyiagu can be reached at ike.enyiagu@gmail.com

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Comment from: katret longkat [Visitor] Email
katret longkatHe who give bribe and he who collect it has committed an offence.please don't give bribe whether guilty or not.
01/27/12 @ 02:28
Comment from: anabel [Visitor]
anabelhappy new year to you all the best in your endeavors
01/27/12 @ 06:04
Comment from: john emeka [Visitor]
john emekaYou see Ikechukwu, this is a prophetic writing, i dont know whether you know this or not, this is where an entity known as Nigeria crumbled and i urge everyone to reflect on this. To educate a woman they say is to educate a nation.When you look at the moderate arab nations today, they are more peacefull and tolerable than the radical once.
01/27/12 @ 10:53
Comment from: John Emeka [Visitor]
John EmekaIf the drivers are made to pay for their traffic violations (tickets) the police force will be properly funded, they will be mandated to do their job better. Unless these systems are in place and followed, we are dreaming. A hotline need to be established to call and report any abnormalities, undercover security operatives need to flood the streets, the money realised will be used to further fund this changes trust me, we are loosing billions every day that a fraction of it could be used.
01/27/12 @ 11:42
Comment from: richard [Visitor]
richardthat was the best analysis for both parenting also for anation,especially for virus nation like nigeria,i hope this writeup will help individuals who truely want to change their ways as aparent or one who want to do right in a society,nigeria has failed every nigerian as we can see the foundation is faulty,i agreed with you Mr Iyk,i look at the country honestly there is nothing good about nigeria in my own judgement,the basic amenties every human being enjoy in any soceity is abig deal in nigeria after 50yrs of independent and the few good leaders that is if there is anyone are gutless worms,they are easilly manupulated,criminals who in the real world deserve to rot in jail are called in nigeria leaders,people in a real soceity who can't be elected in city councils are nigerian national leaders perverts are great nigerian leader thats why nothing good is coming out of them,because you don't give what you don't have.i don't know about you nigeria cannot be called a nation because she does't desrve that title,that title is for the achiever and not for the losers.
01/28/12 @ 08:41
Comment from: Tahir Sulaiman Karaye [Visitor] Email
Tahir Sulaiman KarayeIn Nigeria, what ever one will say, corruption from top to bottom is the source of all problems. Once you have and you can give, then your attrocities are covered by any law enforcement agent. Dont mind of the amount just be determined to give. Allah ya kiyaye, Amin
01/28/12 @ 12:20
Comment from: Ahmed [Visitor]
Ahmedmy fellow brothers,it is our duty to come together as one nigeria,to make things go the way should be,come to luck at ghana they are far better than nigeria,and what to ask here are reacher thanus no. Brothers nigerian,less abourt triberlizm,religiolzm less cm as one nigeria and our problem wl solve.
01/30/12 @ 03:01
Comment from: Emmanuel Nnamdi [Visitor] Email
Emmanuel NnamdiMehn sometimes i feel bad becos of wat niger is turning into,,bribery and corruption all over nigeria,,can u imagine police officers collecting #20.00 in every junction u meet them. Oh is unfair dat a great nigeria of yesterday is hanging up with all kinds of tribulation and self leading is so bad,. But for a childs care, sometimes we shouldn't blame d parent's cos some of our children now think dat they hav grown above their parents, dat is becos of d kind of friends or people they meet, basically on dat u dnt hav to put a blame in d name of parents becos not every parents will allow such to happen to their side....Dats my own comment for dis. Thanks.
01/30/12 @ 07:12
Comment from: nsenamfon [Visitor]
nsenamfonBobby Egbele, you are a disgrace to the human race. When are you going to bring forth a baby for your husband or is your generation terminating with the two of you?
01/30/12 @ 15:35
Comment from: a login [Member] Email
a loginThere should be a deliberate effort to refocus the nation and to review our value. The high level of illiteracy in Nigeria and mostly in the northern part of this country remain the major problem that must be resolved before any meaningful progress can be recorded. The destruction of our moral fabric occasion by military rules in Nigeria which got to head during the evil days of IBB and Abacha is largely responsible for the present state of the country. I think our university professors should come up with solution to this problem corruption which is the bedrock of all other problems. The men of knowledge should come together to develop a sociological solution to this problem. The result may take some time but we will be following the right part and effort will be geared toward resolving the problems of our nation. Breakup is easily said than done, it is too late in the day to comtemplate that
01/31/12 @ 09:24
Comment from: daniel - usa [Visitor]
daniel  -  usasir ikeukwu enyiagu, the entire african culture is having problems transitioning from the agricultural century to what the europeans told us is developement culture. they lied as you i. e. would know.

when it was agricultural, a man had many wives whom in many cases are assigned to plots of land they live off of with thier offsprings. the head of family in that culture displays his machismo, and strict cultural rules. today, the new culture robs a man of means of controlling his family because he can't even find jobs even if he is educated to feed his family, so the children adhers to the white man's culture. so you have an illegitimate nigerian black confused idiot running off to britain to marry a white demon. and you have an underpaid, not properly trained, police officer hassling other citizens for bribes. don't blame the family for this, try the governance of your leaders who are sucked into accepting this method of governance without knowing exactly how to manage it.

the only thing they learned from the white demons remains an ability to oppress others they rule, including robbing them blind.

sir ikechukwu e., we are all suffering, but we can still change nigeria to the benefits for all. do we have the resolve?
01/31/12 @ 10:06
Comment from: Femi Ikutiyinu [Visitor]
Femi IkutiyinuThis lifestyle has eating deep into Nigeria's system. Everyone is guilty of this. The Police collection is glaring. Private and Public sector are worse than the police. The give and take mentality had been bastardise. My question. Who were Dimeji Bankole, Babatunde Raji Fashola, Aminu Waziri Tambuwal, Chimaroke Nnamani ten years ago? Compare these men's character and principles. We Nigerians need total overhaul in our thinking faculty. We need to be re-programmed from the mentality of "CHOP I CHOP". This mentality will never move Nigeria forward.
02/01/12 @ 10:01
Comment from: Ikweka smith [Visitor]
Ikweka smithwoow
This is a brave man in niger don't expect alot of comments as most of us close our eyes to the truth. I thank u for telling it as it should be this helped my situation alot. Eyes I see this everyday in grown people like the fiancée n u are right it is goon to end up in destruction I will follow u on twitter thank u
02/04/12 @ 11:14
Comment from: M.B. MUSA [Visitor]
M.B. MUSACorruption in nigeria has eaten to our bone marrow we shld pls not give nd collect bribe, together we shall make nigeria great.
02/05/12 @ 09:35
Comment from: victor emeka [Visitor]
victor emekaI am looking forward to when this false entity called 'Nigeria' will begin its corrective journey, which we have been anticipating, and that is Dividing Nigeria. Events, happening around us, are testifying to the fact that we are not one and evidently, not meant for one another. Only the selfish are pretending that we are. N B: john emeka, mind your spellings and tenses!
02/29/12 @ 12:33

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